Having a Second Child: 5 Top Tips for When One Becomes Two

Having a Second Child: 5 Top Tips for When One Becomes Two

For many parents, the final weeks of their pregnancy can be a rollercoaster of emotions and the same can certainly be said about welcoming a second child too. Here is my advice for preparing for the arrival of a second baby.

Trying to keep the ship on an even keel and look after yourself at the same time can feel challenging and life will almost certainly feel like a balancing act, but help is at-hand!

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There’s always a lot of excitement leading up to the arrival of baby number two, but I often hear parents express a fear that the bond and connection with their second baby will not be as strong as it was with their first. This is completely normal and something that will more-than-likely be alleviated the moment you see them.

It is really important to spend time preparing your toddler in the months leading up to his sibling’s arrival. Depending on the child’s age it can be difficult to explain that the bump in your tummy will soon be coming home to join the family and that very soon they will be a big brother or sister!

For many parents, life is logistically challenging with two children and making sure that both their needs are being met despite conflicting schedules can be very tough.

Trying to keep the ship on an even keel and look after yourself at the same time can feel challenging and life will almost certainly feel like a balancing act, but help is at-hand!

Many parents have shared their experiences with me over the years so here are my five top tips for those early weeks when one baby becomes two:

  1. Try and work your baby routines so that both lunchtime naps can be scheduled together. That way you can enjoy a bit of a rest at the same time.
  2. Include your toddler as part of your baby’s daily routine as much as possible. Maybe he can help changing a nappy or during bath time.
  3. Toddler behaviour can sometimes be challenging at this time and you may seem them pushing boundaries and exhibiting generally disruptive behaviour. Remember to distract the bad and reward the good. Your toddler is unlikely to get angry or upset with the baby but he may be angry with you for a little while. This is totally natural and will not last.
  4. In the first few months try to avoid making any big changes to your eldest’s routine, such as potty training, removing a dummy or transitioning from a cot to a bed. All of these can wait until you feel the time is right.
  5. Finally, be aware of how your toddler may feel when they see you holding your new-born baby. Naturally, your new-born needs you too but remember to have lots of special one-to-one time together with both children.

As with all things in life, it will become easier with two children, it just takes a little time to adjust.

If you’re expecting a second child or have recently welcomed a new member into the family and would like some additional help, the Baby Academy is always here for you.

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Keep Calm and Relax

It is essential for both you and your baby to look after yourself during pregnancy. Take this time to relax, unwind and try your best to think positively. Maybe take this opportunity to lose yourself in a good book, take a relaxing bath or enjoy an afternoon nap.

Connect with Family and Friends Online

This is the perfect way to stay connected with loved ones everyday via Skype or Zoom. This will help you if you are feeling isolated or suffering with anxiety during pregnancy.

The internet is a welcome resource to make friends and connect with new parents all wanting to share their pregnancy journey, offering reassurance, inspiring confidence and positivity.

Fitness and Healthy Eating

During pregnancy it is really important to eat healthily and enjoy a balanced diet this also includes drinking lots of water to keep you hydrated.

Exercise is great for your mental health as well as your physical wellbeing. Try to get out for a little walk every day or enjoy some sunshine in the garden. Many women enjoy pregnancy yoga as a perfect way to relax both mind and body.

Essential Pregnancy Purchases

At this time shopping for pregnancy essentials and baby products will be a virtual experience. Although sometimes you may be limited on choice due to availability, many companies are offering extended return policies for parents who may need to exchange or return products post-lockdown.

I would recommend only ordering the essentials for you and your baby and then look forward to visiting your favourite baby store once the lockdown restrictions have been lifted.

Anxiety and fear at this time is a very natural reaction but its important to remember to stay positive and try to switch off from the world, focus on you and your wellbeing and look forward to welcoming your little one to the world!

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