Baby Talk Blog

26 May 2020

Having a Second Child: 5 Top Tips for When One Becomes Two

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For many parents, the final weeks of their pregnancy can be a rollercoaster of emotions and the same can certainly be said about welcoming a second child too. Here is my advice for preparing for the arrival of a second baby.


Trying to keep the ship on an even keel and look after yourself at the same time can feel challenging and life will almost certainly feel like a balancing act, but help is at-hand!
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There’s always a lot of excitement leading up to the arrival of baby number two, but I often hear parents express a fear that the bond and connection with their second baby will not be as strong as it was with their first. This is completely normal and something that will more-than-likely be alleviated the moment you see them.

It is really important to spend time preparing your toddler in the months leading up to his sibling’s arrival. Depending on the child’s age it can be difficult to explain that the bump in your tummy will soon be coming home to join the family and that very soon they will be a big brother or sister!

For many parents, life is logistically challenging with two children and making sure that both their needs are being met despite conflicting schedules can be very tough.

Trying to keep the ship on an even keel and look after yourself at the same time can feel challenging and life will almost certainly feel like a balancing act, but help is at-hand!

Many parents have shared their experiences with me over the years so here are my five top tips for those early weeks when one baby becomes two:

1. Try and work your baby routines so that both lunchtime naps can be scheduled together. That way you can enjoy a bit of a rest at the same time.

2. Include your toddler as part of your baby’s daily routine as much as possible. Maybe he can help changing a nappy or during bath time.

3. Toddler behaviour can sometimes be challenging at this time and you may seem them pushing boundaries and exhibiting generally disruptive behaviour. Remember to distract the bad and reward the good. Your toddler is unlikely to get angry or upset with the baby but he may be angry with you for a little while. This is totally natural and will not last.

4. In the first few months try to avoid making any big changes to your eldest’s routine, such as potty training, removing a dummy or transitioning from a cot to a bed. All of these can wait until you feel the time is right.

5. Finally, be aware of how your toddler may feel when they see you holding your new-born baby. Naturally, your new-born needs you too but remember to have lots of special one-to-one time together with both children.

As with all things in life, it will become easier with two children, it just takes a little time to adjust.

If you’re expecting a second child or have recently welcomed a new member into the family and would like some additional help, the Baby Academy is always here for you.

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